Rules of Courtship

1. When a man is considering courting a girl, or vice versa, the first thing one must be able to do is treat him/her well. Treat him/her as you’d like him/her to treat you. Another test for this is how well you can treat others when away from the beloved.

2. You must be a hero/heroine to the beloved. This doesn’t mean that you have to do everything for him/her, but be willing to help them out. Random acts of kindness are a good way to go about this.

3. It is important to mind one's words. Care must be taken to not say anything that could be somehow offend others, or even the beloved. You do not want them to get the wrong idea about you. Only do and say things that the beloved would approve of, whether he/she is present or not.

4. Talk to them. How else are you going to ask him/her out or let him/her know how you feel about him/her? Speaking of things you share in common, things that you or your beloved like, and other small talk is not a bad place to start.

5. If you’re having a bad day, do not take it out on the beloved. You can tell them that you had a rough day, but do not do it in such a way that they have a bad day too.

6. Take your time. Courtship is best if taken at a slow pace. Do not tell them how you feel right away, or encourage them to do things that he/she may be uncomfortable doing. Sure, there may be others after the beloved. Let them make this mistake and be foiled because of it, but don't let that happen to yourself.

7. Be approachable. Don’t look sloppy, but rather, show that you care about your appearance and have respect for yourself. Body language applies here too. Take those hands out of your pockets and be sure to smile.

8. Give them some space. Do not constantly hang around him/her, the beloved likes to spend some time alone too. If he/she asks for some time to be alone, give it.

9. Be sure to treat his/her friends well, as relationships are made and broken by friends' opinions.

10. Remember to be yourself. Do not be acting nicely only around the beloved and like a grouch around others. It is very easy to tell if someone is faking their manners. If you think you're good enough to be with this person, you have to show it to them as well as to others.